Today I want to talk about HAPPINESS, and your NEW story.
The story where you are happy, healthy, passionate, energized, free, full of LIFE and that spark again.
... 2 Years ago my story was PTSD, anxiety medication and complete burnout.
....5 Years ago my story was a tired, flabby, miserable corporate mom of 2 with a shift working husband who fought, and screamed a lot over scheduled and money.
... 6 Year ago my story was a boss telling me I made too much and put my salary on a freeze.
...9 years ago my story was burying my sons father who we lost at the age of 35 to cancer and taking my second stress leave.
...11 years ago my story was taking my first stress leave as I was going through a divorce and becoming a single mom.
... 12 years ago my story was a real life intervention episode, but walked around pretending to be "good".
...15 years ago my story was dieting, skipping meals, hopping on the scale, measuring my worth by numbers
...20+ years ago my story was obesity, bad back,...
But HOW do you do it with kids?
One would need to ask themselves this question...
If you can’t stop THINKING about it, deep down at your core of who you are truly CAPABLE of becoming is a heck of a lot better than how you are choosing to SETTLE.
Maybe if you can’t stop thinking about it, it’s because it was planted on your heart for a reason.... That maybe it’s possible!!
Ain’t nothing worse than settling for less than you deserve and that you’re currently tolerating in your life right??
I found myself asking how I can achieve all of these big dreams and goals I have sewed in my heart , as I laid on the floor in tears struggling to find balance and time.
A gentle whisper from within came over me. You just do it Lindsay.
End of story.
It was the same question I asked myself when I was commuting to a job 10 years ago.... looking for a way out to balance it all.
But the cool part? When I had that idea in my mind...
𝙄𝙩 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙧𝙩𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙎𝙏𝙊𝙋𝙎 ... and STOPS...𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙮𝙤𝙪.
A great question you can ask yourself is this...
Would I want my daughter speaking to herself, the way I speak to myself?
Would I want her treating and thinking of others the way I do?
𝘾𝙃𝙀𝘾𝙆 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙗𝙚𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙧𝙚𝙘𝙠 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛, because like it or not you’ve attracted EVERYTHING into your world, based on how you THINK about yourself.
2 Day I ago I launched my 𝙁𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙁𝙧𝙚𝙚𝙙𝙤𝙢 𝙈𝙖𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝘾𝙡𝙖𝙨𝙨, which is on sale for 50% off, and people are loving it so much!
For years I’ve been coaching women on transformation but one thing kept repeating itself.
Some couldn’t get out of their own freaking way!
You “say” you love yourself, but then you STILL 𝙥𝙞𝙘𝙠 𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛, call yourself mean names, 𝙟𝙪𝙙𝙜𝙚 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨, and don’t believe you’re 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙝 𝙞𝙩?
You “say” “𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙜𝙤𝙤𝙙”, but then still experience 𝙛𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙜𝙪𝙞𝙡𝙩 and 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙢𝙚 anytime you have a treat, then 𝙜𝙖𝙞𝙣 𝙥𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙨 back?
You say you’re...
𝙍𝙚𝙖𝙙𝙮 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙀𝙣𝙚𝙧𝙜𝙮 and 𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨?
I’ve been gifting myself more time in the mornings lately. More meditation. More reflection.
Honestly what I’ve learned is it doesn’t matter what you do fitness wise. It matters what you do MIND wise.
Good vibes only
So how do we get there when we just know deep within you’re not feeling your best and stuck on a merry go round of negativity, unchecked self doubt, fear, comparison, and you’re already SO tired?
1Congratulate yourself for noticing. You’re awesome and amazing just by noticing your worn out ways that leads to nowhere fast.
2Alignment is the issue. It’s not that you’re not hard worker, overachiever, it’s just that you’re way out of whack. Hanging on to stuff, unconsciously telling yourself small stories, or judging people. Continuing to eat junk and not move when your inner compass whispers to you to change. When you’re doing what you KNOW deep within you should be...
I was taken back to my childhood today as I looked at my girls.
My need for external approval, “perfectionism”….and wanting to be liked started early. I remember being in grade 5… and painting my nails blue, thinking that boys would like me more.
I picked blue because I had planned out my outfit the night before, and it matched the flowers.
I remember trying to make it look perfect, but nail polish was all over the place, so after what seemed like hours, I took it off.
I watched my girls this morning, and just saw their innocence. I saw that they didn’t care about how the polish wasn’t perfect, or their outfits didn’t match.
They didn’t care. They were free. They were whole. They were happy. They were full of love. Full of inner peace.
My lesson to them today…. It doesn’t matter what ANYONE thinks of you.
If you like YOU, that’s...
Time to put your money where your mouth is and BRING the JOY instead of the hate.
Your body hears what you think... So, are you speaking LOVE to yourself and others or are you bringing hate, judgement, comparison?
Do you remember when you a little girl in kindergarten and were just happy, carefree, didn’t fixate on how you looked or stacked up to others... and didn’t compare yourself to anyone else?
That’s the GOAL here!
Self consciousness and comparison is the thief of joy, and you MUST make it your job to get to a space of radical self love and acceptance.
Well if you’re waking up tired, out of shape, overweight with body aches... YOUR morning rituals are very different than mine.
If you are waking up stressed, anxious and losing our sh*t on your kids every morning, YOUR morning rituals are very different than mine.
If you are waking up scrolling, judging, rolling your eyes balls and comparing yourself to others to only feel NOT...
Rise and ShineAre you living in a state of fear, Panic, anxiety or are you aware of your monkey mind that’s ruining your life... and actively DOING something about it??
If you’re aware of your thoughts and fears, congrats ... you’re not your thoughts but the one who notices them.
Meditation, Mindfulness, and Movement saved my life. I don’t take that lightly. But it was my daily practice of rising early, sitting alone in silence, journalling, followed by movement that saved my life and got me out of dark hole....
My miracle morning group was birthed as a result of the very fact that you can GET UP, work on yourself... releasing your fears, letting go, doing the HARD WORK. and putting yourself back together again...
Or you can keep looking for a quick fix, keep hitting snooze, keep affirming that you’re tired, out of shape, that you’ve got anxiety, that you’re depressed, that you’re struggling, that you’re broke... and it’s...
We wake up and we CHOOSE to feel fulfilled. We don’t wait for external circumstances to line up with our needs or our self imposed time lines . We wake up. We choose happiness. We choose joy. We choose fulfillment.
Shredded abs won’t bring fulfillment.
Only YOU can. Do you feel good enough on THIS day??
What is it you’re really after? I believe the ultimate goal is personal freedom. Wholeness. Happiness. Health. Fulfilment.
Truth is, I always was chasing more... a relentless chase of crazy .... this has been the hardest work I’ve ever had to do on myself.
Unpacking and and uncovering WHY I never felt worthy or good enough. Why I kept self sabotaging myself. Allowing things to fall apart naturally, not controlling, not fixing, but observing, not pushing....so I can put the pieces back together only this time the right way.
Building a strong foundation that embodies LOVE from the inside out.
I was always seeking validation from others.
If we are going to be vibrant we have to be willing to try first. Today is a brand new day that we get to show up to.
By showing up to work on yourself, you’ll not only feel that vibrancy within, but others will notice that powerful energy too. You’ll attract more goodness into your life simply by turning inward and asking yourself the tough questions...
Like HOW have I been showing up lately, and are there areas I need to improve on.
Imagine a life where you wake up excited again. Where you wake up vibrant and joyful, not caring what you look like, for you know the jackpot lies within.
Keep in mind at the end of this life, your loved ones won’t care how you look or what the scale says, but they will remember how you showed, the difference you made, vibrant you were, and how present you were around them.
Be willing to try today. Show up. Give thanks. Move.... even if it’s for 10 minutes, set a daily...
"You get in life what you have the courage to ask for" ~ Oprah Winfrey