How To Handle Haters
Years ago I had a hater named Janice... who assumed all I did all day long was pawn my kids off and go shopping while I worked from home.
Years ago I also had a good friend name Kate who blocked and unfriended me when my business was successful and hers wasn’t.
Years ago I had a good friend laugh at me when I told her I was going to retire my husband.
But here’s the thing about haters.
You’re only shining light onto their darkness and most often it’s rooted in their own insecurity. It’s not even about you.
So....
What the heck do you do all day?
An EMPTY day… As a business owner… or a BIG DREAMER
What do you do all day, and how do you do it all with kids?
Or how DID you do it?
Well first off, you gotta be deeply connected with a HEART and a mission for that will keep going going when the haters come
Second, if you want a better life, you don’t quit, and you...
Got Big Dreams but Scared to Start?
Wanna Know A Secret
Thanks, but NO thanks!
Think of all the times you showed up and kept your mouth shut even though you knew better and wanted to speak up.Think of all the times you did something above and beyond for others and they didn’t notice.Think of all the times you knew something was off and you stayed longer simple because you wanted to make others happy, or do a really great job, and yet at the end of the day you were filled with frustration, resentment, bitterness, and anger because you gave too much away.Think about all that time and energy you put out for others to not appreciate you and yet internally you were feeding yourself with all of the negatives emotions that went along with you not standing up for yourself, speaking your voice, valuing your time, or taking your power back.Inspired Action
Things are not as they appear, and fear is an illusion of the mind, which means you are in control of your thoughts and actions. Isn’t that refreshing to know you can be your own hero?
There are a lot of people who will wake up today and choose not to believe. They will hear those whispers of greatness within, yet they will continue to go in the opposite direction.
They will hear and receive inspired ideas and then choose not to take inspired action but rather sit there and complain, mope, whine and wonder why their life sucks. They will lose themselves to distraction and mediocrity.
But not you. Not ever.
Hear those whispers and those inspired ideas for what comes in, must go out. So why when a new idea or inspired action move comes into your space would you ever want to keep it bottled up inside?
Eventually if you do, you’ll die a little more each day from living an uninspired life.
Will those ideas make your life worse by taking...
Home Sweet Home
There comes a time in every grown woman’s life where she walks up the stairs in her home, and asks herself... What do I WANT for my life.
What would a perfect day look like?
Why am I doing STILL this of it doesn’t make me happy?
What’s the point really if I am always so busy, to not even enjoy the little things in life?
What must I do to make this life of mine exactly how I want it.
Then that ONE days comes where she turns In toward, says fuck it all, makes up her mind, and then gets busy creating the kind of life we wants.
Not the one she was conditioned to, or believed she had to live to make others happy.
A life all of her own.
A life she loves to wake up to.
A life that makes sense to her.
A life of meaning and contribution, and that feels good within despite what the critics think you should do.
I’ve walked up the stairs in MY HOME many times. That home of yours isn’t the one you pay a mortgage on... or are sooooo busy working for, to not even sit down to...
A happy pill????
Today I want to talk about HAPPINESS, and your NEW story.
The story where you are happy, healthy, passionate, energized, free, full of LIFE and that spark again.
... 2 Years ago my story was PTSD, anxiety medication and complete burnout.
....5 Years ago my story was a tired, flabby, miserable corporate mom of 2 with a shift working husband who fought, and screamed a lot over scheduled and money.
... 6 Year ago my story was a boss telling me I made too much and put my salary on a freeze.
...9 years ago my story was burying my sons father who we lost at the age of 35 to cancer and taking my second stress leave.
...11 years ago my story was taking my first stress leave as I was going through a divorce and becoming a single mom.
... 12 years ago my story was a real life intervention episode, but walked around pretending to be "good".
...15 years ago my story was dieting, skipping meals, hopping on the scale, measuring my worth by numbers
...20+ years ago my story was obesity, bad back,...
You will SEE it when you BELIEVE it
I won’t ever say that this life stuff is easy. Taking care of yourself. Raising babies. Chasing dreams. Juggling all the things.
It’s hard, but today, it’s OFFICIALLY done, and its been the hardest work I’ve ever done.
It took 3 years longer than expected, but one early morning I got this aha moment to write a book.
365 days... 7 days a week... over 3 years... I didn’t take a day off from writing.
In fact it’s been 1954 days ago that I started writing and haven’t taken one single day off.
It’s who I am. It’s what I do, and I don’t actually feel at ease until what comes out of me is on the page.
Since showing up on social media to help inspire, motivate and help people to transform their lives... I’ve been judged. I’ve been attacked. I’ve been...
Progress over Perfect
Are you a so-called "Perfectionist".. but yet NOT living a happy life?
Are you a “๐ฃ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ถ๐๐”...or just a scared little baby? Yes, it's my job as a high performance life coach to rattle your cage a little.
Many people will have great intentions today of improving their lives, but then tell themselves stories that prevent them from even starting
I’ll wait until I start eating perfectly before I start working out.
I’ll wait until the kids are older, and then I can invest more time.
I will wait until the house is organized before I start that business, or change jobs.
Waiting… Calling themselves “๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐๐จ๐ฉ๐จ”
Something can only be perfected when it is RELEASED. ๐๐๐๐ฃ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ACTUALLY ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ฉ.
Then you can go back and tweak, make it better, hone in your skills and “perfect it”.
If you ‘re not moving forward.. You’re actually just ๐ง๐๐จ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ฃ ๐๐๐ผ๐.. So no. You’re not a “perfectionist”... you’re just...
Body Confidence 101 - Bringing the Joy
Time to put your money where your mouth is and BRING the JOY instead of the hate.
Your body hears what you think... So, are you speaking LOVE to yourself and others or are you bringing hate, judgement, comparison?
Do you remember when you a little girl in kindergarten and were just happy, carefree, didn’t fixate on how you looked or stacked up to others... and didn’t compare yourself to anyone else?
That’s the GOAL here!
Self consciousness and comparison is the thief of joy, and you MUST make it your job to get to a space of radical self love and acceptance.
So how?
Well if you’re waking up tired, out of shape, overweight with body aches... YOUR morning rituals are very different than mine.
If you are waking up stressed, anxious and losing our sh*t on your kids every morning, YOUR morning rituals are very different than mine.
If you are waking up scrolling, judging, rolling your eyes balls and comparing yourself to others to only feel NOT...