Home Sweet Home
There comes a time in every grown woman’s life where she walks up the stairs in her home, and asks herself... What do I WANT for my life.
What would a perfect day look like?
Why am I doing STILL this of it doesn’t make me happy?
What’s the point really if I am always so busy, to not even enjoy the little things in life?
What must I do to make this life of mine exactly how I want it.
Then that ONE days comes where she turns In toward, says fuck it all, makes up her mind, and then gets busy creating the kind of life we wants.
Not the one she was conditioned to, or believed she had to live to make others happy.
A life all of her own.
A life she loves to wake up to.
A life that makes sense to her.
A life of meaning and contribution, and that feels good within despite what the critics think you should do.
I’ve walked up the stairs in MY HOME many times. That home of yours isn’t the one you pay a mortgage on... or are sooooo busy working for, to not even sit down to...
A happy pill????
Today I want to talk about HAPPINESS, and your NEW story.
The story where you are happy, healthy, passionate, energized, free, full of LIFE and that spark again.
... 2 Years ago my story was PTSD, anxiety medication and complete burnout.
....5 Years ago my story was a tired, flabby, miserable corporate mom of 2 with a shift working husband who fought, and screamed a lot over scheduled and money.
... 6 Year ago my story was a boss telling me I made too much and put my salary on a freeze.
...9 years ago my story was burying my sons father who we lost at the age of 35 to cancer and taking my second stress leave.
...11 years ago my story was taking my first stress leave as I was going through a divorce and becoming a single mom.
... 12 years ago my story was a real life intervention episode, but walked around pretending to be "good".
...15 years ago my story was dieting, skipping meals, hopping on the scale, measuring my worth by numbers
...20+ years ago my story was obesity, bad back,...
You will SEE it when you BELIEVE it
I won’t ever say that this life stuff is easy. Taking care of yourself. Raising babies. Chasing dreams. Juggling all the things.
It’s hard, but today, it’s OFFICIALLY done, and its been the hardest work I’ve ever done.
It took 3 years longer than expected, but one early morning I got this aha moment to write a book.
365 days... 7 days a week... over 3 years... I didn’t take a day off from writing.
In fact it’s been 1954 days ago that I started writing and haven’t taken one single day off.
It’s who I am. It’s what I do, and I don’t actually feel at ease until what comes out of me is on the page.
Since showing up on social media to help inspire, motivate and help people to transform their lives... I’ve been judged. I’ve been attacked. I’ve been...
Progress over Perfect
Are you a so-called "Perfectionist".. but yet NOT living a happy life?
Are you a “๐ฃ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ถ๐๐”...or just a scared little baby? Yes, it's my job as a high performance life coach to rattle your cage a little.
Many people will have great intentions today of improving their lives, but then tell themselves stories that prevent them from even starting
I’ll wait until I start eating perfectly before I start working out.
I’ll wait until the kids are older, and then I can invest more time.
I will wait until the house is organized before I start that business, or change jobs.
Waiting… Calling themselves “๐ฅ๐๐ง๐๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐๐จ๐ฉ๐จ”
Something can only be perfected when it is RELEASED. ๐๐๐๐ฃ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ACTUALLY ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ฉ.
Then you can go back and tweak, make it better, hone in your skills and “perfect it”.
If you ‘re not moving forward.. You’re actually just ๐ง๐๐จ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐ฃ ๐๐๐ผ๐.. So no. You’re not a “perfectionist”... you’re just...
Body Confidence 101 - Bringing the Joy
Time to put your money where your mouth is and BRING the JOY instead of the hate.
Your body hears what you think... So, are you speaking LOVE to yourself and others or are you bringing hate, judgement, comparison?
Do you remember when you a little girl in kindergarten and were just happy, carefree, didn’t fixate on how you looked or stacked up to others... and didn’t compare yourself to anyone else?
That’s the GOAL here!
Self consciousness and comparison is the thief of joy, and you MUST make it your job to get to a space of radical self love and acceptance.
So how?
Well if you’re waking up tired, out of shape, overweight with body aches... YOUR morning rituals are very different than mine.
If you are waking up stressed, anxious and losing our sh*t on your kids every morning, YOUR morning rituals are very different than mine.
If you are waking up scrolling, judging, rolling your eyes balls and comparing yourself to others to only feel NOT...
I AM.. Adaptable
You’re brave and you're beautiful, so do me a favour today and hold your head high!
Don’t let anyone define you. Love yourself, take on the world, stand up and be STRONG and you fight like a MOFO for the life you want.
Repeat after ME: I am adaptable. I accept and adjust to any situation.
Why? Because you’ve got TWO options..
Adapt. Or sink. It’s that simple.
The amazing thing about challenges, struggles, defeats or a dark time in your life, is YOU THINK there is a problem. You think things should be different. Your THINKING is off sis.
There is in fact nothing wrong. It’s just a test. It’s a gift. A life lesson you’re gifted that will set you on your way to becoming a better version of yourself.
It’s up to you if you pass the test and learn the life lesson, get better... or keep fumbling around in the darkness blaming others.
You hold your head.
You don’t let anything in your life define the...
That VIBRANT life
If we are going to be vibrant we have to be willing to try first. Today is a brand new day that we get to show up to.
By showing up to work on yourself, you’ll not only feel that vibrancy within, but others will notice that powerful energy too. You’ll attract more goodness into your life simply by turning inward and asking yourself the tough questions...
Like HOW have I been showing up lately, and are there areas I need to improve on.
Imagine a life where you wake up excited again. Where you wake up vibrant and joyful, not caring what you look like, for you know the jackpot lies within.
Keep in mind at the end of this life, your loved ones won’t care how you look or what the scale says, but they will remember how you showed, the difference you made, vibrant you were, and how present you were around them.
Be willing to try today. Show up. Give thanks. Move.... even if it’s for 10 minutes, set a daily...
Getting UNSTUCK
No doctor can’t write a prescription for friendship and love. A doctor can’t make you show up to your life, and write you a script for happiness and health. That’s your job.
Sometimes in an effort to shut off terrifying situations, to remain stuck in the past, to allow our fears to stop us...it deadens our capacity to be FEEL fully alive.
We feel stuck. We feel uninspired. We feel hopeless. We feel tired. We feel lost. I’ve been there many times. Searching for clarity and direction towards what will make you FEEL FULLY ALIVE is hard. Really hard.
But your heart knows. Your brain may think. Your mind may wander, but your HEART will know, and when you are out of alignment you will feel it.
Last weekend I spoke on stage to hundred of business owners and told stories of the multiple times where I lost my way and gave my power away. Where I allowed myself to feel not good enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough, and I allowed MY WORTH and my measure of success...
Pick YOU First
You don’t wait to be picked. You pick yourself. That’s what you need to know. TODAY. Write that down. Save it. Share it with all your besties
Growing up morbidly obese I was always picked last. Pick last for the teams. Last for the prom. I always tried to stay under the radar. Didn’t want to stand out, for fear of being judged for my weight, or how I looked.
I didn’t want to be SEEN… but yet underneath… I was also so very tired of NOT being SEEN. I was tired of being invisible. Tired of never being validated or approved by others.
I over compensated by being too nice, people pleasing, and doing whatever I could to make others happy or comfortable. Perfectionism at work. Going above and beyond. Caring so much about the opinions of others. Saying YES when I really wanted to say NO.
But you see that was where I failed miserably.
I was taken advantage of, and when I wasn’t recognized or picked or promoted, I instantly fell back into...
In 10 years youโll surely arrive
I’m NOT that same mom I was 10 years ago, and you will want to save this!
In 10 years you’ll surely arrive. The questions is where do you want to be?
While overcoming my lifelong battle with obesity was hard, the hardest part is the work done on the inside to heal yourself. The work you MUST do when you lost yourself. I lost myself at 27.
10 years ago, I was “busy… but good”. Miscarriages, Car accidents, home invasion, husband with a hidden drug addiction, refinancing a home for “home renovations”, 60 pounds over weight, postpartum depression, sleeping medication, stress leaves, government assistance, crying myself to sleep, punching holes in walls, calling myself fat, lashing out on anger, supersized combos in bed, buying more stuff I didn’t need, zoning out with candy crush.
But I was “good”.. “fine”. Hiding it with a fake smile.
When the PAIN of staying stuck where you are becomes MORE PAINFUL than the pain...