I remember the day clearly.
It was a Thursday night, and I opened my laptop to go onto a dating site. Where else was I going to meet someone being a single mom with an 18 month old ??
I found him and reached out first, as I didn’t actually have a profile picture up.
I chuckled a little when he told me his name was Dennis... he told me that I could call him Den, but I’ve never called him that.
We met for the first time in a beer store parking lot, and I had a screwdriver in my purse... “just incase” he was some nut job.
I went to shake his hand, he laughed and gave me a hug instead.
From that moment forward when I got into his dusty car that he couldn’t be bothered to clean before our date....I KNEW that he was someone I’d want in my life for a long time.
When I told him my plans of building a business, he said do whatever you wanna do.. (Cause he knew I’d do it anyways)
Never once have I heard him complain.
Never once have I heard him yell or...
There comes a time in every grown woman’s life where she walks up the stairs in her home, and asks herself... What do I WANT for my life.
What would a perfect day look like?
Why am I doing STILL this of it doesn’t make me happy?
What’s the point really if I am always so busy, to not even enjoy the little things in life?
What must I do to make this life of mine exactly how I want it.
Then that ONE days comes where she turns In toward, says fuck it all, makes up her mind, and then gets busy creating the kind of life we wants.
Not the one she was conditioned to, or believed she had to live to make others happy.
A life all of her own.
A life she loves to wake up to.
A life that makes sense to her.
A life of meaning and contribution, and that feels good within despite what the critics think you should do.
I’ve walked up the stairs in MY HOME many times. That home of yours isn’t the one you pay a mortgage on... or are sooooo busy working for, to not even sit down to...
Today I want to talk about HAPPINESS, and your NEW story.
The story where you are happy, healthy, passionate, energized, free, full of LIFE and that spark again.
... 2 Years ago my story was PTSD, anxiety medication and complete burnout.
....5 Years ago my story was a tired, flabby, miserable corporate mom of 2 with a shift working husband who fought, and screamed a lot over scheduled and money.
... 6 Year ago my story was a boss telling me I made too much and put my salary on a freeze.
...9 years ago my story was burying my sons father who we lost at the age of 35 to cancer and taking my second stress leave.
...11 years ago my story was taking my first stress leave as I was going through a divorce and becoming a single mom.
... 12 years ago my story was a real life intervention episode, but walked around pretending to be "good".
...15 years ago my story was dieting, skipping meals, hopping on the scale, measuring my worth by numbers
...20+ years ago my story was obesity, bad back,...
But HOW do you do it with kids?
One would need to ask themselves this question...
If you can’t stop THINKING about it, deep down at your core of who you are truly CAPABLE of becoming is a heck of a lot better than how you are choosing to SETTLE.
Maybe if you can’t stop thinking about it, it’s because it was planted on your heart for a reason.... That maybe it’s possible!!
Ain’t nothing worse than settling for less than you deserve and that you’re currently tolerating in your life right??
I found myself asking how I can achieve all of these big dreams and goals I have sewed in my heart , as I laid on the floor in tears struggling to find balance and time.
A gentle whisper from within came over me. You just do it Lindsay.
End of story.
It was the same question I asked myself when I was commuting to a job 10 years ago.... looking for a way out to balance it all.
But the cool part? When I had that idea in my mind...
𝙄𝙩 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙧𝙩𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙎𝙏𝙊𝙋𝙎 ... and STOPS...𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙮𝙤𝙪.
A great question you can ask yourself is this...
Would I want my daughter speaking to herself, the way I speak to myself?
Would I want her treating and thinking of others the way I do?
𝘾𝙃𝙀𝘾𝙆 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙗𝙚𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙧𝙚𝙘𝙠 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛, because like it or not you’ve attracted EVERYTHING into your world, based on how you THINK about yourself.
2 Day I ago I launched my 𝙁𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙁𝙧𝙚𝙚𝙙𝙤𝙢 𝙈𝙖𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝘾𝙡𝙖𝙨𝙨, which is on sale for 50% off, and people are loving it so much!
For years I’ve been coaching women on transformation but one thing kept repeating itself.
Some couldn’t get out of their own freaking way!
You “say” you love yourself, but then you STILL 𝙥𝙞𝙘𝙠 𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛, call yourself mean names, 𝙟𝙪𝙙𝙜𝙚 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨, and don’t believe you’re 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙝 𝙞𝙩?
You “say” “𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙜𝙤𝙤𝙙”, but then still experience 𝙛𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙜𝙪𝙞𝙡𝙩 and 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙢𝙚 anytime you have a treat, then 𝙜𝙖𝙞𝙣 𝙥𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙨 back?
You say you’re...
Are you a so-called "Perfectionist".. but yet NOT living a happy life?
Are you a “𝗣𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗶𝘀𝘁”...or just a scared little baby? Yes, it's my job as a high performance life coach to rattle your cage a little.
Many people will have great intentions today of improving their lives, but then tell themselves stories that prevent them from even starting
I’ll wait until I start eating perfectly before I start working out.
I’ll wait until the kids are older, and then I can invest more time.
I will wait until the house is organized before I start that business, or change jobs.
Waiting… Calling themselves “𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙛𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙨”
Something can only be perfected when it is RELEASED. 𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪 ACTUALLY 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙧𝙩.
Then you can go back and tweak, make it better, hone in your skills and “perfect it”.
If you ‘re not moving forward.. You’re actually just 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙞𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙣 𝙁𝙀𝘼𝙍.. So no. You’re not a “perfectionist”... you’re just...
𝙍𝙚𝙖𝙙𝙮 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙀𝙣𝙚𝙧𝙜𝙮 and 𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨?
I’ve been gifting myself more time in the mornings lately. More meditation. More reflection.
Honestly what I’ve learned is it doesn’t matter what you do fitness wise. It matters what you do MIND wise.
Good vibes only
So how do we get there when we just know deep within you’re not feeling your best and stuck on a merry go round of negativity, unchecked self doubt, fear, comparison, and you’re already SO tired?
1Congratulate yourself for noticing. You’re awesome and amazing just by noticing your worn out ways that leads to nowhere fast.
2Alignment is the issue. It’s not that you’re not hard worker, overachiever, it’s just that you’re way out of whack. Hanging on to stuff, unconsciously telling yourself small stories, or judging people. Continuing to eat junk and not move when your inner compass whispers to you to change. When you’re doing what you KNOW deep within you should be...
To be honest..my ENTIRE career these past 5 years as an Entrepreneur, I feel has led to THIS moment in time.
Social distancing… Figuring out how to impact and change the lives of MILLIONS…. Shoes and bra optional.
I’m a homebody, an introvert and 5 years ago today it was the first time I actually LISTENED to that faint whisper within and spoke MY truth.
Guess what happens when you speak the truth?
Some times, people don’t like that, and I was fired. EPIC Failure... or hmmm was a redirection on the RIGHT path??
But that was the day, I TRUSTED my own inner compass instead of the opinions of others, and weren’t ALL in on MYSELF.
Truthfully, I was so tired of being handed more work of the same pay. So tired of rushing my kids out the door, yelling at them to hurry up, only to put on fake smile for complete strangers. So tired of that emptiness inside and waiting until the weekend.
I was taken back to my childhood today as I looked at my girls.
My need for external approval, “perfectionism”….and wanting to be liked started early. I remember being in grade 5… and painting my nails blue, thinking that boys would like me more.
I picked blue because I had planned out my outfit the night before, and it matched the flowers.
I remember trying to make it look perfect, but nail polish was all over the place, so after what seemed like hours, I took it off.
I watched my girls this morning, and just saw their innocence. I saw that they didn’t care about how the polish wasn’t perfect, or their outfits didn’t match.
They didn’t care. They were free. They were whole. They were happy. They were full of love. Full of inner peace.
My lesson to them today…. It doesn’t matter what ANYONE thinks of you.
If you like YOU, that’s...
Time to put your money where your mouth is and BRING the JOY instead of the hate.
Your body hears what you think... So, are you speaking LOVE to yourself and others or are you bringing hate, judgement, comparison?
Do you remember when you a little girl in kindergarten and were just happy, carefree, didn’t fixate on how you looked or stacked up to others... and didn’t compare yourself to anyone else?
That’s the GOAL here!
Self consciousness and comparison is the thief of joy, and you MUST make it your job to get to a space of radical self love and acceptance.
Well if you’re waking up tired, out of shape, overweight with body aches... YOUR morning rituals are very different than mine.
If you are waking up stressed, anxious and losing our sh*t on your kids every morning, YOUR morning rituals are very different than mine.
If you are waking up scrolling, judging, rolling your eyes balls and comparing yourself to others to only feel NOT...
"You get in life what you have the courage to ask for" ~ Oprah Winfrey