When Your Soul Wants to Create but Something Inside Holds the Brake

There is a quiet struggle that many deeply thoughtful, highly successful, intuitive, and purpose-driven people experience. 

It's an internal spiritual warfare that feels like you've got one foot on the gas, and one foot on the brake, and no matter what you do, your energy is divided.  You can't seem to get going.  You start.  You stop.  You waiver. You doubt.  You feel as if you're losing your goddamn mind, and in a sense you are (but in a really good way.)

So if you landed on this blog post, consider it a sign.  You're exactly where you're meant to be and your life is about to get a hell of a lot easier from here on out!

Here's the issue with many high achievers and high performers.  On the surface, they absolutely love their work. They've found their passion and purpose and they just want to do what they love to do.  Amazing right?

They feel energized when they go to work, create, teach, guide, lead, speak, write, or build something meaningful. Their ideas flow, their heart feels alive, they sing, dance, laugh, cry tears of joy, are grateful, and they sense that their work is part of their purpose.

And yet… Something inside them pulls back.

They might sit down to work and suddenly feel:

•  guilt for working or being away from their children even though they are a phenomenal parent
•  heaviness or stress about putting their own needs first
•  anger or tension in their body 
•  a lack of time to do what they want to do
•  a sense that they “shouldn’t” be doing this
•  an invisible resistance they cannot logically explain but causes them to reside in a space of inner conflict

It can feel like having your foot on the gas and the brake at the same time or an actually living hell. If you’ve ever felt this internal friction and conflict, there’s a good chance it isn’t laziness or lack of discipline.

Very often, it’s something much deeper.

It may be a part of you that formed long ago when you were a small child and understanding this can completely change the way you approach healing, self-sabotage, and your work.  

The Hidden Pattern: When Work Meant Losing Connection

Many people who experience this internal battle grew up in homes where caregivers were physically present but emotionally unavailable.

This often happens when parents are:

•  constantly working or travelling for work
•  overwhelmed by responsibilities
•  emotionally distant
•  unable to give consistent attention
• are stressed about finances
• healing from their own childhood wounds
• grew up in a generation where working often meant losing their children.  

As children, we don't have the ability to interpret these situations logically. Instead, our nervous systems create emotional associations.

A child may experience moments like:

•  wanting attention but hearing “not now”
•  feeling secondary to work or responsibilities
• sensing emotional distance even if their basic needs were met

Over time, the nervous system quietly learns something powerful:

This isn’t a conscious belief, it’s an emotional imprint, and that imprint can stay active for decades, quietly shaping behaviour and, in many cases, leading to self-sabotage later in life. Unconsciously, a person may grow up only to recreate or relive the very thing they were trying to avoid, finding themselves walking a path that mirrors their mother’s or father’s life despite their best efforts not to.

When a child grows up in an emotionally immature home, or in an environment lacking real presence and connection, they may decide, “I don’t ever want to be like that.” And yet, even with that intention, they can still end up creating the same patterns, until, before they realize it, history begins to repeat itself.  This is why a deep daily spiritual practice and connection to yourself is so critical.

So when the adult version of you begins working intensely, even if it’s meaningful work you love, your nervous system may activate subtle warning signals.

Not because work is wrong, but because a younger part of you remembers what work once meant.

Why Guilt or "Not Enoughness" Shows Up When You’re Thriving at the Top of Your Game

When you begin to rise, to expand, and to truly step into your power, it’s not uncommon for an old version of you to quietly return and you might notice a sense of guilt, or a whisper of “not enoughness.”

This isn’t a sign that you’re doing something wrong or that you don't below. It’s a sign that a younger version of you is being stirred and that you need to connect. There is a shadow version within you, a younger self who once felt unseen, not good enough, not cool enough, or disconnected from love and presence. That part of you learned, in its own way, how to stay safe and protected.  It learned what it meant to belong, what it meant to be accepted, and what it meant to not be “too much.”

As you begin to thrive, that old energy can resurface. Not to harm you, but to be witnessed.

It may whisper:

“I'm not good enough”, “You don't belong here”, “No one listens or respects me", "I'm so stupid or look so stupid", “People hate me or no one understands me.”

If you’re not consciously aware of this, you may find yourself pulling back, dimming your light, or unconsciously creating patterns that keep you small. This is where self-sabotage is born, not from weakness, but from an unhealed part of you trying to protect what once felt necessary for survival.

But you are no longer that younger version of yourself. Your work now is not to silence this part, but to notice it. To sit with it and have a little heart to heart conversation with that younger part of yourself.  To acknowledge it with compassion, love and truth. To cry those tears it never got a chance to and to be there for yourself.  Because when you bring love and awareness to this shadow part of yourself, you take away its power to unconsciously lead you, and ultimately keep you small.

Thriving does not mean you lose connection or that you will abandon your responsibilities. Doing work you love to do doesn't mean you're missing out or that you're a shitty parent.  Expanding and growing does not mean you abandon yourself in the process. Being successful and wealthy does not mean you are better than anyone else on this planet.  You are allowed to rise and make the most of yourself and yet still remain deeply connected to yourself, to others, and to something greater.

When that younger shadow self comes forward, see it not as something that is holding you back or a raging spiritual war going on inside, but as something asking to be loved and seen as you move forward.

The Inner Child Who Still Wants to Be Seen

At the core of this experience is a younger version of you.  One that still lives within your energy, your body, and your heart. This isn’t something to overanalyze, i’s something to acknowledge and deeply feel.

This younger self carries the memory of moments when you longed to be seen, to be held, to be truly met, and something was missing. Not because you were unworthy, but because the space or the people around you couldn’t fully receive you at the time.  This is the part of you that learned to wait, to quiet down, to adapt, to settle for scraps or breadcrumbs and to say longer in environments or with people that did not deserve them.

As you grow, expand, and step more fully into your life, that younger energy can rise back to the surface. It may show up as heaviness, resistance, emotional tension, or even a subtle sense of guilt. Not to hold you back, but to get your attention. Beneath it all, there is a quiet question: “If you keep going or keep working… Will you forget about me or leave me?”

This is not something to push away. It’s an invitation to turn inward, to slow down, to acknowledge the part of you that still longs to be seen, not someday, but right now. You don’t have to choose between your growth, your career, your family and your wholeness. You don’t have to abandon yourself in order to move forward.  You can actually find a beautiful balance and be in alignment, harmony, and have tremendous inner peace.

The more you include this younger self by listening, softening, and being present, the less it will need to call out to you through discomfort, pain, or inner disease of back and forth guilt and doubt, and in that space, something powerful happens. You no longer move forward alone. You rise with every part of you fully seen, fully held, fully supported, fully confident and fully integrated.

You Can Have Both: Purpose and Connection

One of the most healing realizations is that you do not have to choose between meaningful work and presence. You can build a life where both exist and you can do it all exceptionally well.  

You can create, teach, build, write, and share your gifts with the world without abandoning yourself or your family in the process. The goal is not to silence the protective part of you. The goal is to bring it along for the journey. When that part of you begins to feel safe, the inner warfare softens.

The gas pedal and brake stop fighting each other, and boom!  It's like a massive release of energy and a brand new rhythm emerges.  Not to mention you are a lot more healthier and happier in the process.  

What Healing Actually Looks Like and the Power of Yin Yoga

Healing this pattern isn’t about forcing productivity, pushing through resistance, or following rigid routines.  It’s not about striving, doing more, optimizing every aspect of your life, being more productive or becoming someone new, better and different.  Although that's not to be confused with wanting to improve yourself, being honest with yourself, manifesting your dreams and make the most of yourself.  It's a very fine line but definitely a different kind of energy and a different level of success.  One is easy.  The other feels like a constant uphill battle of struggle, challenges, ill health, and self-sacrifice.  Most often those types of productivity structures, frameworks, conferences, programs and teaching modalities are all based around ego, fear, complete unconsciousness, insecurity, self-sacrifice, unworthiness, or a deep rooted mother wound or father wound that has been left untreated.  

True healing comes through softening, slowing down, and allowing yourself to open fully. This is why a sacred, self-led Yin Yoga practice can be so profoundly restorative and life changing.

It creates space to connect deeply with every part of yourself and to truly listen to yourself and your own inner voice without interference or someone else's made up rules or frameworks for your life.  It’s also an opportunity to form a relationship with yourself and that younger part of yourself that you never truly got to know.  

Unlike faster styles of yoga, Yin emphasizes long, gentle holds that allow both the body and nervous system to soften. Poses such as child’s pose, butterfly, supported bridge, and gentle twists create room, not just physically, but emotionally as well. As the body slows, the mind begins to quiet, and when the mind quiets, the deeper messages within you can finally be heard.

Yin Yoga helps release tension stored in the fascia and connective tissues, places where emotional stress often lingers. But even more importantly, it teaches a subtle yet transformative lesson: it is safe to pause. It's safe to rest.  It's safe to sleep in. It is safe to feel. It is safe to exist without constantly performing, proving, or striving.

This is the power of spiritual practices.  They reconnect you to your body, your breath, and your awareness. Over time, they can rewire the nervous system, showing you a new truth: work does not mean abandonment or neglect. You are fully present with yourself, and you will always be here for yourself from here on out.  

PRO TIP:  To help you further I have created a 60 minute guided Yin Yoga and Meditation Practice inside of Mindset Mastery called Hearing the Whispers of Your Own Heart.  You can get instant access to this practice by clicking here and signing up.

Meditation: Rewiring the Inner Relationship and Subconscious Mind

Meditation is one of the most effective ways to create safety within your mind and body.  When you sit in stillness, observe your breath, and allow thoughts and emotions to arise without judgment, something profound begins to happen.

You start becoming the present, attentive witness that your younger self needed.  Not to mention if you've been really busy, meditation will actually bring to the surface all the shit that you might have just brushed under the rug or didn't think was an actual big deal at the time.  Meditation brings down those walls and let's the real light in.  

Through meditation you cultivate, inner listening, emotional presence, compassion toward yourself, and connection to your deeper self.  Over time, this presence becomes a form of internal re-parenting.  You soon begin to understand and believe that you are no longer alone.  

Creating a New Relationship With Work

Healing doesn’t mean you stop working or doing what you love. It means your relationship with work changes. Instead of work being something that replaces connection or proves self-worth, it becomes something that exists within a life that also includes care, presence, love, excitement, purpose, and nourishment.

For example, your day might no longer being with rising at 5am and crushing a workout.  It might now begin with a long hot shower, enjoying a cup of coffee, meditation, and doing your workout whenever you want to instead of rushing to get it done.  You enter your work from a place of centered awareness, not urgency, rush, to-do lists, or panic.  

During the day, you pause for mindful breathing, a nap, relaxation, preparing a high quality meal and anything else you want to do because you now have the time and space to do so and you're not operating out of fear, worry, old wounds, and your younger self isn't running the show.  These pauses send a powerful message to your nervous system and help you to actually manifest what you want with greater ease.

The Moment Self-Sabotage Begins to Dissolve

There is often a moment in healing when something clicks. You realize that the part of you creating resistance is not your enemy. It was simply a younger protector part of yourself that simply didn’t know the present was different from the past.  When you begin listening to that part rather than fighting it, something remarkable happens.

The tension begins to soften, the guilt becomes quieter and your energy starts flowing more naturally and organically. You no longer feel like you're dragging yourself forward or that you're constantly starting and stopping.  Instead, your life begins moving with a sense of alignment and confidence.  

Peace Is Possible

If you’ve been experiencing this inner warfare, know that it does not have to remain this way. Healing is not about becoming perfectly productive or being zen all the time.  It’s about becoming deeply integrated and self-aware as you come home to a space of authentic truth, self-love and self-mastery.  Not to mention, you feel really freaking good and that's how you know you're truly connected! 

You can honour your desire to create meaningful work while still raising babies or taking care of your responsibilities at home.  You can nurture the parts of you that still long for attention and care.  You can cultivate a life that includes purpose, passion, presence, creativity, emotional connection, and you can truly have it all and when those parts of you finally feel safe all working together, the energy that was once spent on inner conflict becomes available for something far more beautiful.

Health.  Love.  Family.  Purpose.  Creation.  Service.  Peace.  Naps.  Vacations.  Truly a life that is worth living and that feels really great! The kind of peace that arises when you realize you are no longer abandoning any part of yourself.  You are finally walking forward together and living YOUR life happy, healthy and free.

Ready to Step Fully Into Your Power?

If this journey resonates with you, it’s time to take the next step and I invite you to join Rise and Shine.  You will find it inside Mindset Mastery and you can get started whenever you feel ready.  Because real transformation?  It begins with a decision, not a deadline.

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This isn’t about working harder or chasing outcomes, it’s about remembering who you truly are, claiming your power, and living fully from your highest self.

Join Mindset Mastery today and start creating the life you were always meant to live. Step in. Pause. Awaken. Claim. Multiply.

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Additional Reads:

Wake Up and Live - 101 Days of Deep Inner Work to Transform Your Life

Rising Higher - 101 Days of Rising Happy, Healthy and Free to Serve a Greater Good 

Personal Power - 101 Day of Relentless Action Forward

Life Worth Living - A 28-Day Guide to Inner Peace, Love, and Joy

Meet Lindsay Rose Martin

Lindsay’s journey is a powerful reminder that you don’t need to fit the mold to create a wildly successful life. In fact, her story is one of boldly taking leaps of faith, proving that true happiness, health, fulfillment, joy, purpose, and abundance come when you transform your mindset, change your thoughts, and courageously follow your own heart and soul.

As a driving force for positive change, Lindsay is a best-selling author and the creator of transformational coaching and audio programs that have impacted thousands worldwide. With her raw, magnetic energy and deep spiritual insight, she inspires growth and real, lasting transformation through her compelling presence, expertise, and emotionally powerful messages.

Lindsay helps people awaken to their inner power and create lives that feel happy, healthy, and purposeful. She guides them to become conscious creators of their reality by aligning their energy, thoughts, and beliefs with the life and relationships they truly desire.

Drawing on years of real-world experience in the corporate world, as a mother, speaker, health and fitness coach, yin yoga and meditation teacher, entrepreneur, business mentor, teacher of presence, high-performance coach, and spiritual medium, Lindsay blends intuition, mediumship, and grounded strategy. She helps people access their authentic truth, gain clarity, build confidence, and create alignment, abundance, and lasting success in ways that are rooted in lived experience, not just theory.