Why I Now Love Talking About the Weather: Seeing Small Talk in a New Light

manifestation self discovery self love spiritual awakening spiritual health and wellness Jun 13, 2026

I hate to admit this, but I used to be one of “those people”...

I despised small talk, and talking about the weather?

C’mon. For some reason, it bothered me, and I had no time for it. It really annoyed and pissed me off. In fact, if someone talked about the boring weather, I’d usually cut them of and not give them the time of day.

Like, really?

Is the weather all that anyone ever talks about these days?

I much preferred “deep conversations,” and sure... we all do.

But just how deep are we talking about here? Because I can go really deep if I have to.

The truth is, when we are deeply connected with ourselves, we can deeply connect with others.

On anything.

Well.. anything except organized religion, gossip, other people, negative news stories, war, violence and politics, because I’m not into any of those things and I won’t talk or participate. I’ll simply remove myself from that energy immediately.

But aside from that…. If you really want to, you can connect with someone on anything.

For many though, they aren’t connected to themselves, and that’s the problem.

In fact, many don’t even know who they are, so they are looking for that connection outside of themselves. They are looking to get to know people.

You know the saying... “People need to like, know, and trust you.”

But do they really?

Or are you the one who just needs to like, know, and trust yourself?

That’s the difference.

That’s the shift.

Many people are wanting to connect from a wound or from a vulnerable, lonely place. They are desperately longing for people to see, like, know, understand and trust them, but that will won’t ever work and it’s definitely not necessary.

I don’t need people to see or like me.
I don’t care if people really know me or understand me.
And I trust myself.

So if other people don’t see, like, know, understand or trust me… That’s their problem.

Not mine.

Yes, going deep is necessary.

Going deep allows us to discover who we truly are. I’ve written many books on this deep work because for many they’ve barely scratched the surface.

But just because someone talks about the weather, it doesn’t mean they are shallow and not worth your time or energy.

It usually means the one who hates talking about the weather is shallow and doesn’t see themselves as worth the time or energy.

We have to go back.

We have to face our deepest fears.

We have to face our shadows, pain, and trauma.

We have to look at everything in order to move forward with our lives, but after we’ve done that?

Well, we move forward and don’t look back.

What we are searching for is real connection, and for some reason, today’s society leads us to believe that talking about the weather isn’t really connecting, cool or worth our time, and those who despise it?

Well, they’re just “different” and perhaps “above it.”

Or are they really?

There’s so much more to life than talking about the weather, and sure, there is.

There’s lots to talk about, but usually what most people talk about really isn’t doing them any favours. Most people like to gossip, complain, or repeat old stories. Most people like to judge, criticize, or reaffirm all the things they don’t want.

So what are they really connecting on?

Anything of real value?

Probably not.

Have you ever been there?

You meet that person, you feel like you’ve known them for years, you open up about everything, and suddenly you’re “connected.”

Soul sisters. A BFF for life. A brother from another mother. You can’t explain it, but you just feel different in their presence and then...

Usually, sometime down the road, things shift and change, and then you wonder why.

I’ve had many of those encounters, and looking back, I’m a little mortified by them.

What seemed “deeply connected” at the time was usually just me returning to my past and talking about the things I truly needed to heal from or process a little more.

What seemed deeply connected was me sharing my deepest dreams and desires to someone and then having them go and shit on them, or copy them.

What seemed deeply “connected” was usually me sitting there, nodding, listening, and being a dumping ground for other people drama, sob stories, and all of their problems.

Just going around the table, sharing, dumping, and “connecting.”

Usually, when I encountered those “deep conversations,” I was revealing parts of myself that I hadn’t fully healed from or I shared dreams and manifestations that should have remained protected so they could grow, bloom, and flourish without interference from outside influences.

Usually, I was the one doing all the “deep talking,” or they were the one going deeper into things with me. And yes, if you’re an empath, you get used to people just telling you everything. You’re safe, you see people, and you’re able to connect.

Which can be a blessing, but also a curse as well if you’re not careful.

Here’s What I’ve Realized

Sometimes, wanting to go deep into conversation with someone is simply unhealed trauma or an emotionally neglected and lonely person looking for connection or validation. And the deeper we get into things, for some reason, we seem to think we are more “connected” with someone than opposed to talking about the weather in an elevator, how good the service was, how their weekend was, or what we ate for breakfast.

Weather is weather. Eggs are eggs. Weekends are weekends.

But hearing someone’s “story,” well, that’s interesting, and that takes a little more time. Telling your story to someone makes you feel like you’re understood.

But does it actually benefit anyone?

Does it actually benefit you?

Does keeping it alive actually help you move foward?

I am going to tell you that NO, it doesn’t.

Well, hearing someone’s rags-to-riches story or where they grew up, or how much weight they lost might initially inspire someone looking for hope and inspiration, but if you tell that story too many times, history might just repeat itself, and that’s where many people get stuck and keep going around in frustrating painful circles.

We listen to podcasts.

Watch talk shows and documentaries.

Go to conferences.

Write biographies.

We take the before and after.

We document our past history on medical reports.

But having a full history report doesn’t actually help anyone, especially when you’re trying to move forward, get on with your life, and create new and exciting adventures for your future.

Sure, your past made you who you are today.

It shaped you into the person you are today.

Yup, you were born somewhere and had parents too, and yup, maybe, just maybe, you are “different” or “special”.. Which btw, you’re not. Everyone was created equal.

Or maybe you had a crazy story to tell about how you survived something fucking awful in your life.

Or maybe you had 49 surgeries or were abandoned and left on the front porch.

Or maybe you had grandparents who came over on a boat and rebuilt their life and started a bread baking business.

Or maybe you were a single mom who needed food stamps.

Or maybe you did lose 500 pounds.

Or maybe you were raised by a bunch of shitheads and your mother beat the living daylights out of you.

Or maybe you became a billionaire and built a business from your living room.

Or hell, maybe you were abducted by aliens or lived with a Sasquatch in the mountains.

I get it.

I do, but honestly, if we met, that’s all in the past, and really, is that is?

Is that all you’re ever going to talk about?

Is that all you are?

Is that what you’d tell me if I said tell me a little bit about yourself?

Is that all that’s left for your life when your entire life is still in front of you?

That’s not your identity, and it’s surely not the most interesting thing about you. It’s not to say those things didn’t happen, or they didn’t matter, or they weren’t fucking awful, it just means that they were the stepping stones that got you to this moment in time, and you must keep taking those steps forward.

When we’ve been in the thick of healing, processing trauma, nurturing our battle scars, making peace with a past, or have overcome a really dark and depressing time in our lives…

We eventually awaken.

We rise.

We emerge from our own suffering and personal hellhole and suddenly we’re like, now what?

What do we do?
Where do we go from here?
What do we talk about now?

Who am I without my story or my past?

What is my real identity?

What will I do for the rest of my life?

For many, they don’t remain present or connected.

They go back to telling stories.

Stories of their past.
Stories of their trauma.
Stories of their childhood.
Stories that keep them stuck.

And here’s where talking about the weather comes in really handy and why I see this totally differently now.

Talking about the random, basic things in life is a foundation.

It’s a common ground where everyone can meet, and I see that as a positive.

I see that as an entry point for real connection, and yes, you can get a really good read on someone pretty quickly based on how you feel in their presence. (Obviously you’ll know right away if this is someone you will even want to connect with. Don’t ever ignore those creepy weirdo red flag vibes. Ever.)

But the weather does not require us to get into the nitty-gritty of where we’ve been, what our personal history was, what happened, who we are, what we do, who did want, or what made us who we are today.

It doesn’t require anyone to go back to anything or live up to anything.

We simply wake up, see what the weather is for the day, look ahead at the forecast, and we can talk about it to some random person we meet. We can even check the weather in places we want to travel to.

And I think that’s very powerful.

Why?

That’s kind of like our life.

We wake up, and it’s a brand-new beginning.

We wake up, we can look ahead at the forecast, we can make predictions, and see that, yup, it’s going to be sunny today, or yup, there are going to be some storms ahead, or yup, our travels might be difficult at times, but we are still moving in the right direction, and sure, maybe I’ll stay in bed a little longer, order room service today and eat some oatmeal because I can and I want to.

The past is over.

And for those who have done the work, we’ve already visited those deep, dark places, and continually going deeper into everything can sometimes reopen old wounds and keep a person stuck in darkness.

Stuck in healing.

Stuck in the story.

Stuck going around in circles.

After you’ve had a spiritual awakening and you have truly come home to yourself, life is no longer what it once seemed.

You’re not the same person, and you’re no longer interested in the same things.

Life is way more peaceful, colourful, enjoyable, and perhaps even really fucking boring to some people.

You see things differently now and you want to experience life differently now.

You no longer live in the past, but rather you’re constantly forecasting brighter beautiful days ahead. Smooth sailing with perhaps a little bit of wind every now and again.

You no longer care to hear about the misfortunes of the world, negative news, politics, or sob stories or the past…

Not that they don’t exist, but it’s just that you’re not in control of how other people experience their lives, and no amount of attention to the negative, sadness or the world, terror, the past, or misfortune will ever change it.

What will change it is if more people wake up and raise their own level of consciousness.

What will change it is if more people truly learn to master their mindset and get reconnected to themselves.

Reconnected to love.

Reconnected to joy.

So yes, when you are truly connected, you’re fully present and focused on where you’re going with your life, not where you’ve been.

And that’s even more powerful, even more life-changing.

So when I’m not working, reading or channelling spirit, and I meet someone for the very first time, I’m actually not looking to go deep.

I’m simply looking to communicate, have a simple conversation, and engage, and if we connect, great.

If we connect on a TV show we’ve watched or a book we’ve read, great.

If we connect on where our kids go to school, a dance competition, or where we shop, great.

If we connect on working out or how to make the best margarita, great.

If we connect on puppies, the colour of our nails, makeup, or where we are travelling to, great.

If we connect on exciting new projects we’re working on, paint colours we love, flowers we’re buying, or fashion styles, great.

If we connect on the weather, and then we keep connecting on other things down the road, great.

But real connection happens when you’re truly connected to love and to yourself.

That’s it.

But looking to go deeper and getting into really deep soul to soul conversations every single day for the rest of my life?

Quite frankly, I’m over that.

I’ll leave that work up to a therapist.

I’ve done my inner work.

I know where I’m going.

I know who I am.

I know what I’m working on.

I know what I want out of my life.

I know what’s possible, and sometimes that information is confidential and not for anyone else to know about.

In fact, when you’re manifesting you should keep that sacred and to yourself.

Sometimes I need to talk about the weather or silly cat videos because I’m so deep into creating my own life that talking about the weather is a break from the hard mental work of making your life what you want it to be.

So here’s to talking more about the weather and whatever else I want to talk about randomly.

Here’s to more beautiful seasons of fun, laughter, enjoyment, and living life to the fullest.

And to be honest, you can do that by simply waking up, seeing the beautiful sunshine, having the freedom to choose what you want to do, and then going and doing it.

If, and only if, it’s sunny and the birds are chirping.

And if by chance a hurricane or some awful storm comes along the way, embrace it and hold on tight, for complete darkness, rain are in fact required for real growth, real beauty, and real transformation ;)

Lindsay